The comfortable warmth of an unkempt bed full of memories to the bitter apprehension of facing another tedious day.
The echoes of an empty house to the uneaten food carefully arranged on the dining table.
The transformation between two identities: one true and one to be seen, to the feeling of being pushed into a corner while a bubbly, more loveable alter ego inflates to fill up the empty space.
A singular hand reaching out to guide you to that smirk as she turns to exclude someone of such low status.
The harsh words of someone once loved tattooed in your mind to the belonging and acceptance from the one you love now.
The twinge in your stomach as you see that boy with his head in his hands to the pain felt as you watch her eyes fill with tears when she thinks no one is looking.
The unexplainable excitement as the person who makes your heart flutter approaches to the mind-numbing disappointment as you watch him walk away.
The triumph of the correct response and that nod of approval to the utter self-loathing when your performance has proven itself subpar.
The joy of that smile in response to your words or actions to the sadness of knowing you were the one who caused so much pain.
The regret and guilt of past mistakes committed in a spur of emotion to the sensation of an exonerating free-fall as you let those emotions overcome you.
The overwhelming noise of the fast paced world you live in to the loneliness of being left alone to your deadly thoughts.
The liberation of stripping away the layers of masks after a long day to the pathetic desire for some lasting relief.
But these are the things you see and the things that only you experience and they are yours to take ownership of. No matter how many hours you sit and cry and yell trying to explain and convey the feelings and events of your everyday life, no one will ever be able to understand. The objects and events that we perceive are from our own perspective and experience has taught us that perspective is everything. “You couldn’t see her face from where you were sitting.” “Perhaps if you were a few inches taller, you would be able to see what I see.” It’s this same concept, but on a mental and emotional scale. We are shaped by all the events we have seen put together. No one else has seen exactly what you have seen and felt every feeling you have felt and been in every situation you have been in. And because of that, we are all acutely unique.
The quote goes: “We live as we dream, alone.” When you dream, people are there, but they aren’t real people who experience the dream. You can wake up and try to explain to someone what the dream was about, but they will never be able to experience it in the way you did and they will not be able to grasp the full meaning of it. Life is just like that.
That is a fact we all need to understand and that is the reason we can never judge. And that is the reason why unconditional positive regard should not be reserved for those special few that we deem “worthy”, but rather a gift that we bestow upon anyone who needs it so that they may progress. If only you knew what they knew and could see what they see, you might judge differently, so try giving them the benefit of the doubt and just love them.
Take care you lovely humans,